Back to school time always bring a new wave of first day tears, resistance, and fears… and that’s just the parents (mostly kidding!). I wanted to put together some information for my incoming Kindergarten parents to help ease the transition into the school setting for all involved. Below you’ll find 8 tips for parents to help kids with separation anxiety at school.
Help Kids with Separation Anxiety at School
1 – Make and Practice a Goodbye Ritual
Plan how you and your child will say goodbye. Maybe it’s a big hug followed by a high five. Maybe it’s a quick secret handshake. Practice your goodbye ritual for brief separations, like when your child spends the afternoon with an aunt or goes to a dropoff playdate so that the ritual is familiar when it’s time for school.
2 – Do a Practice Run
If possible, participate in school functions to prepare for that first day. Send your student to half-day transition opportunities if they’re available. If you can make it to Open House events, make the walk to the classroom to gain comfort with the building. If not, make the walk or drive to school so that your child can see what the drop off will look like.
3 – Read about It
Pick up some books to talk about the feeling surrounding separation. Llama Llama Misses Mama is a great story that illustrates some of the worries and panic associated with separation.
The Kissing Hand provides a sweet strategy for families to use to help kids with separation anxiety. A kiss on the palm and a palm to the heart can remind kids that families love them even when they are apart!
4 – Stick to a RoutineRegular bedtime routines?
Important. Predictable morning routine? Super important. Stick to a routine to give your child a comfortable schedule leading up to school. Make sure your child is on time for school so they can participate in morning routines too. Missing morning structure or instructions can leave your child feeling lost and more anxious. Finally, fill your child in on the daily schedule. Let them know when they can expect to see you again.
5 – Pack a Transitional Object
Pack a small, familiar object to help ease the transition. Tuck a family photo in your child’s backpack or small pocket heart in your child’s pocket as a reminder that they’re still loved and connected, even when you’re apart.
6 – Show Excitement
When you talk about school and the changes ahead, show your child that you’re excited! Instead of focusing on the separation with statements like, “I’m really going to miss you while you’re at school,” say things like, “It’s going to be so cool to get to do science experiments at school!” or “I can’t wait to hear about all the things you learn!” to let your child know that school experiences will be exciting and fun.
7 – Validate Feelings
If your child expresses some sadness or worry about going to school, validate their feelings and let them know it’s okay to feel that way. Redirect the conversation to things they can do if they feel worried at school, like grounding strategies or looking at that transitional item.
8 – Model a Positive Goodbye
Finally, when it’s time to say goodbye, do your goodbye ritual and then model a positive goodbye. Give your child a big smile with a confident posture, tell them you can’t wait to hear about their day, and then head out! Your child will pick up on your positive energy!
Give your child a big smile with a confident posture, tell them you can’t wait to hear about their day, and then head out!
Check out this website for several articles on safety which deal with bullying, cyber bullying, bus safety, fire safety, drug safety, and school safety! Click below to go to the site! I hope that this helps!
Bullying behavior among kids from elementary, middle and high school has expanded beyond what parents and teachers may have experienced in their youth. Teasing and name calling have grown into full-fledged attacks spread wide by the use of the Internet, a form of abuse commonly known as cyberbullying.
Drs. Robin Kowalski, Susan Limber and Patricia Agatston, co-authors of the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program’s cyberbullying prevention curricula for grades 3-12, say cyberbullying occurs when children and youth use technology such as text messaging, Internet sites and cell phones to bully others. They suggest some ideas to help protect your child from becoming involved in bullying situations as well as ways to get help.
Keep Tabs on Technology
While placing your home computer(s) in open access areas, such as family rooms or kitchens, can be helpful, it is important to remember that kids can access the Internet from a variety of sources including mobile phones, an iPod touch and handheld gaming devices. Tell your children you may review their online communications if you think there is reason for concern. Consider installing parental control monitoring and/or filtering programs on your computer(s), but don’t rely solely on these tools. Blocking or filtering content works well for younger children. Monitoring and discussion works best for tweens and teens.
Communication is the Key
Talk regularly with your children about online activities, specifically cyberbullying, and encourage your children to tell you immediately if they become the victim of cyberbullying, cyber-stalking, or other illegal or troublesome online behaviors. Encourage your children to tell you if they are aware of others who may be the targeted by such behavior, and make sure your children understand cyberbullying is unacceptable behavior that will have consequences if they take part in it.
When Dealing with Cyber Bullying
Tell your children not to respond if they are cyberbullied but to tell an adult immediately and to save all messages as evidence. Contact the school if you suspect the school district’s Internet system is being used for nefarious purposes; the school is obligated to prevent negative use of its own networks. In any case, you should enlist the school to help you resolve the problem if the children involved attend the same school.
The Rules of the “Superhighway” Can Help
Try to identify the individual doing the bullying. Even if the person is anonymous there are ways to track people down through Internet service providers. Sending inappropriate language may violate the “terms and conditions” of e-mail services and Internet providers, Web sites and cell phone companies. You can contact these companies to get help in blocking the perpetrator or removing offensive content.
Get the Police Involved
Cyberbullying is criminal if it includes threats of violence, extortion, obscene or harassing phone calls or text messages, stalking, hate crimes or child pornography. If any of these are present ,it is time to contact the police and let them track the person down.
Tips To Avoid Being Late To School
We need for EVERY CHILD to be here every day on time. On time means this: Your child should be in the classroom, seated, and ready to start the day when the bell rings. We start classroom activities, carry out morning procedures, check student work, and do some one-on-one instruction with students prior to the bell ringing. So if your child is late, they miss out on great opportunities in the classroom! Also, they start the day off feeling rushed, anxious, and a bit behind those who were here earlier. Please be aware that if your child comes through the doors after the bell rings, THEY ARE TARDY and must be accompanied by a parent.
Here are some tips to avoid being tardy:
1. Make sure your child has everything together before leaving the house the night before.
2. Leave 10 minutes earlier when there is bad weather.
3. Get your child an alarm clock and begin to train him or her to be responsible for rising when the alarm goes off.
4. Don't EVER let a child wait until the morning to do homework, get papers signed, or pack a lunch.
5. Choose and lay out clothing for the next day before going to bed.
6. If you simply cannot get your child here on time, please consider having him or her ride the school bus.
7. Let your child eat breakfast at school and avoid that morning hassle!
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Hello! I am Mrs. Maureen Durst, and I am a certified School Counselor in Preston County. I am at three schools: Terra Alta East Preston, Aurora, and Fellowsville Elementary. I grew up in Preston County and will always call this place my home. I attended West Virginia Wesleyan College, where I received my Bachelor's degree in Psychology. I also have my Master's degree in School Counseling from West Virginia University. I am certified to counsel all age groups (PreK-Adult). I am also a National Board Certified Counselor. This is my third year as a school counselor in Preston County, and I am excited to continue my journey with all my awesome students!